Relationship Development Consulting

Our relationships with people at home, in the wider family, our friends, the community and at work all have a bearing on how we feel.

You can very often find yourself adopting hats for different roles. Too often you will find that you are wearing a hat which doesn't belong to you and frankly it just doesn't suit you.

Can you remember a time when you thought you had to be someone else in order to have others like you? Do you say things just to be part of the group/team? When are you ever totally honest and yourself?

Can you imagine what it would be like to be able to be heard, understood and listened to if you were saying what you wanted to say rather than what you thought someone else wanted to hear?

If you were honest with your boss, with your partner, with your children and with your friends - what would that do for you?

What if you think you're being honest because it's an identity you adopted at a young age as a defence mechanism? What if your parents used to argue, and you found that cracking jokes or acting the fool was the solution to making them stop doing it - can you see that now it has become a behavioural pattern which isn't needed any longer?

Can you see that perhaps it would be useful to look at your patterns of acceptance and rejection to know really what the reasons for them are?